Partner and Couple’s Treatments
At the Colorado Sexual Recovery Center, we understand that partners of sex and pornography addicts are innocent bystanders in the path of destruction created by the damaging behaviors of their spouse or partner. Dr. Barta works with Certified Clinical Partner Specialists using the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, which was created by Dr. Barbara Steffens of the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. CSRC treats the partners with individual, group and couples counseling coming to help the betrayed partner heal from the trauma of betrayal.
Dr. Barta works directly with Certified Partner Specialists because CSRC understands that partners of sex and pornography addicts have been betrayed by the one they count on and love the most. We believe that the adverse partner responses that happen after discovery are due to betrayal trauma.
Our goal in treating partners of sex and pornography addicts is to help them establish safety and heal from the trauma they have experienced. We also feel very strongly that the sex and pornography addicts we treat need to fully understand and be accountable for the harm that they have caused. Therefore, our sex and pornography addiction program is highly partner sensitive, with accountability, empathy and transparency.
What You’re Feeling is Normal
The overwhelming feelings you are experiencing as a partner of a sex or pornography addict are completely normal. You are not crazy. You have just experienced a type of trauma known as “betrayal trauma”. Betrayal trauma is a severe type of psychological trauma that threatens your survival and safety.
Most partners of sex addicts display symptoms of an “Acute Trauma Response” and sometimes even meet the criteria for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Common behaviors and emotions include but are not limited to anxiety, hypervigilance (i.e.: checking phones or computer history), intense sadness and grief, anger, inability to concentrate, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts. A typical response from a partner of a sex addict is, “I feel like I am on an emotional roller coaster!” They feel there is no safety in life and that everything they thought to be true about their relationship was a lie.
Intensive treatment is designed to jumpstart the process of recovery from betrayal trauma. The intensive is designed to give you months of healing by providing you with the knowledge, understanding and experience within a short period of time. Our experience and skill has allowed us to create Intensive Treatments that are cost effective, meet the partner’s individual needs and issues, and provide immediate relief and safety. Partners do not have to be committed to staying in the relationship in order to benefit greatly from these intensives, and each intensive is specifically designed to fit the needs of each individual partner. Additionally, all partner intensives include specific assessments to ascertain how betrayal trauma has affected you individually.